Don’t Let Anxiety and Fear Keep You From Getting Help Dealing With Anger Addiction
By Marty Brenner, C.C.D.C. #104227
There’s probably no person living who has not at some time or another, experienced severe negative emotions. When these feelings of anger happen again and again, however, and seem to be beyond the individual’s control, they are in fact an addiction. And, when this addiction moves to rage, it is an condition that must be addressed, for the good health of the individual and everyone around him.
Anger is not always negative; it can be channeled into positive achievements. If a particular social condition arouses negative emotions in you, this can motivate you to take the steps necessary to do something about it. Rage, on the other hand, is purely negative, and has absolute no positive aspects. When it becomes a dependency, recurring again and again, it can be destructive to relationships and to personal well-being.
Seeking help to control such an addiction; whether for yourself or for someone else, can be challenging, and because of the stigma often associated with such requests, can cause fear and hesitation. Some of this comes from guilt; the feeling that the condition needing help is somehow the individual’s fault. It helps to understand the source of these feelings. Anger or rage often stems from unmet needs or situations over which the individual feels he or she has no control. The outburst of emotion will often give momentary satisfaction, but, in the long run will not solve the original problem. When the outbursts continue to happen, it can lead to even greater feelings of guilt, which can then lead to full-blown panic attacks, which represent a danger in themselves.
Overcoming the fear associated with getting help to deal with your problem is not easy, but it can be done. First, it must be understood that when the condition is extreme, it is hard to stop. Without professional external help, such conditions can become impossible to deal with. But, feelings of guilt and shame can increase angst and make it difficult for people to seek help.
A certain amount of anxiety concerning the unknown is normal and to be expected, and dealing with dependence issues involves a huge unknown. But, if the affected person learns to like himself or herself, either independently or with help from those in close relationships, the first major hurdle has been crossed. Next, it helps to identify and take steps to satisfy unmet needs, often an initiator of outbursts.
Finally, while anxiety can cause rises in blood pressure, and are extremely uncomfortable, there is no record of it actually causing significant physical harm. The things we fear; disapproval or censure of others, for instance, hurt our feelings, but do no other harm. When we reach that realization, some of the anxiety is relieved almost immediately; much like the child who is finally convinced that there isn¹t actually a bogey man hiding under the bed.
If you or a loved one is suffering from this problem, don’t let fear of the unknown keep you from getting help.
Marty Brenner CCDC
I specialize in Anger Management classes, Domestic violence counseling, Alcohol Addiction, Drug Addiction, Life Skill development, Problem Solving skills, Coordinator Support, Relapse Prevention, Risk Management, Interpersonal communication skills.
I work with Individuals challenged with various addictions including but not limited to – substance abuse, alcohol, and anger.
I am a Certified Chemical Dependency Counselor and Anger Management Specialist II.
If you or a family member or someone who you know is in trouble with substance abuse or anger, we can work together to determine what the best course of action to take on behalf of you and that individual who is seeking help.
I can help, call me when you need to talk: 213-500-8865 and for more information about me and my practice visit my web site at www.talktomartyb.com.
Marty Brenner | ADP APPROVED Certification #104227
Court Approved – Individual Sessions
Anger Management Specialist II | Domestic Violence | Diversion (pc1000)