Recovering Rager’s Creed
By definition, a rageaholic or “anger addict” is a person who gets excited by expressing rage, or a person prone to extreme anger with little or no provocation.
If anger or rage is a problem for you or someone you love, the following creed will help get things moving in a more positive direction.
Read this list each morning before beginning your day:
- I will practice self-restraint as a top priority today.
- When angry, I will act the opposite of how I feel.
- If I am feeling like my anger is about to erupt, I will QUIETLY leave the situation.
- I will find truth in all criticisms directed toward me today, especially from my partner.
- I will say, “You are right,” in a sincere, meaningful way when criticized.
- I will give an example of how the person who criticized me is right.
- I will repeat this silently to myself: “I am better off being wrong, because when I am right, I am dangerous.”
- I will avoid explaining myself in any way by saying, “I have no idea why I did that… it doesn’t make any sense to me either.”
- I will listen sympathetically to my partner when she tells me about her day. I will make eye contact and turn off the TV.
- I will give no unsolicited advice to my wife or children. I will also avoid asking, “Do you know what you should do?” or “Do you know why that happened?”
- I will avoid blaming family members for anything today, especially if it was their fault.
- I will avoid trying to make any family member “understand.”
- I will avoid trying to convince my child or spouse that I am being fair.
- I will look for an opportunity to sincerely praise everyone I live with, even the cat I don’t like.
- I will humbly commit myself to removing my angry behaviors today as my contribution toward a more peaceful world.
From Anger Busting 101 by Newton Hightower. Copyright © 2002 by Newton Hightower.