On July 21, 2009 MBRC Counselor Ellery Holesapple waited for Marci outside the Alaska Air baggage claim at LAX. And waited. And waited.
Finally he called to report Marci must have missed the plane. No, we said, her husband had just heard from her.
“She walked right past me waiting for her with a sign that had her name printed on it,” recalls Ellery four and a half years later. “When I reached her by phone she stated she tried to score crack from the guy on the island (where people wait for shuttles) at LAX. It took another 15-20 minutes talking with her on the phone before she would tell me where she was.
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By Marty Brenner, C.C.D.C. #104227
There’s probably no person living who has not at some time or another, experienced severe negative emotions. When these feelings of anger happen again and again, however, and seem to be beyond the individual’s control, they are in fact an addiction. And, when this addiction moves to rage, it is an condition that must be addressed, for the good health of the individual and everyone around him.
Anger is not always negative; it can be channeled into positive achievements. If a particular social condition arouses negative emotions in you, this can motivate you to take the steps necessary to do something about it. Rage, on the other hand, is purely negative, and has absolute no positive aspects. When it becomes a dependency, recurring again and again, it can be destructive to relationships and to personal well-being. Click here to read more »
By Marty Brenner CCDC
One of the most common addictions in today’s stress-laden world is the addiction to anger. People suffer anger addiction, like most other addictions, as a response to situations which they fear they cannot control. And, like other addictions, as a coping mechanism, anger makes the addict feel good at first, but like cocaine, as the addiction grows, it consumes more of the person’s life and has painful consequences.
To an addict, the most important thing in life is the addiction. All focus is on it, as it blocks out the painful feeling of lack of control over other aspects of the addict’s life. The addiction gives an illusory sense of pleasure, power and control; often so intense that he or she is blind to the consequences of actions taken when under the control of the addiction.
It provides a false sense of security, but even worse, the longer the addict is consumed by anger addiction, the greater often becomes the need to resort to that addiction in other words, the required Odosage’ to chase away the fear increases, like the heroin addict who must keep increasing the hit. Click here to read more »
By Marty Brenner CCDC
Emotions are feelings that happen to us, not things we chose to happen. Emotions are mechanisms that developed in ancient people to enable them to deal with external situations in order to survive. Our response to emotional states, while sometimes recognized, is often felt to be beyond our control, and have a physiological as well as a mental component.
Developing emotional awareness is key to learning to effectively and positively control our emotional state, to avoid a situation where we are controlled by our emotions. People who are aware of the true nature of their emotions are better able to think clearly, to communicate effectively with others, and to live happier, more productive lives. As an added bonus, people who are emotionally aware not only have better control over their own emotions, but are more likely to correctly interpret the emotional state of others.
Regardless of the situation, when dealing with others, emotions shape the communication process. Contrary to what you might believe, most communication is determined, not by the words we use but the nonverbal cues we send; it is believed that 95% of communication is nonverbal and emotion-driven. It is the way you feel, not how you think, that determines how your communication is interpreted. Understanding the impact of emotion on communications helps us to avoid missing important emotional cues when we communicate with others, and contributes to more effective communication. Click here to read more »
Why Do We Notice When Addicts Have Multiple Addictions?
By Marty Brenner CCDC
Because They Often Lash Out!
Coping with addiction presents significant challenges for anyone; dealing with multiple addictions presents often seemingly insurmountable problems for the addicted, their families and everyone around them.
The factors that make people susceptible to one addiction, unfortunately, open them to other addictions as well, and one of the maladies that those suffering from multiple addictions manifest is anger or rage addiction. Along with treatment to mitigate other addictions, anger addiction rehab is often necessary to help addicts change their lives. Click here to read more »