by Marty Brenner
Paranoia is a one way to hide your anger, both from yourself and from others. You may not see yourself as a paranoid person and you may be unable to recognize this type of anger in others. Paranoia is based on mistrust, a belief that others around you mean to do you harm. You project your negative feelings onto someone and then take on a defensive attitude when you interact with that person.
Paranoia causes you to live in a hyper vigilant state at all times. You are always ready to respond to perceived threats and are never able to let your guard down long enough to relax. You never allow yourself to have fun and enjoy life because you are afraid you will miss some important signal or expose your soft spots to your enemies. It becomes increasingly difficult to tell your friends apart from your enemies; in fact, more and more of your friends seem to be crossing to your enemy’s side.
Paranoia is closely related to anger as a protective emotion. When you are suddenly exposed to mortal danger, your brain has to make a split-second decision whether you should stand and fight or if you should run away. This is the famous fight-or-flight response intended to help us assess our chances of winning the fight and then giving us the emotional and physical power to engage in battle or run for our lives. Anger gives you the strength to fight whereas fear tells you to take flight. Reacting to a fearful situation, whether it is real or imagined, makes you run away to a safe place. Paranoia keeps you in a perpetual state of fight-or-flight as your brain has to constantly decide whether you should run or stay and fight.
When you feel paranoid, you project a reason to fear onto someone else and then react to that imaginary and misplaced fear. It does not really matter whether this person or entity is actually bad or cruel – in fact, he has no control over the amount of anger you project onto him. He will go about his daily life, doing the things he always does, because he is completely unaware the hidden anger you project onto him. Paranoia causes you to search his every deed and his every word for the smallest hints to support your anger towards him.
You may be unaware of your own anger, hidden behind the cloak of paranoia. Paranoia allows you to hang your anger in someone else’s closet, so to speak, in a way that relieves you of responsibility for your emotions. Instead of accepting responsibility for your own emotions, you substantiate your fears by portraying your enemy as evil or “out to get you.”
Paranoia causes you to live in an uncomfortable and unhappy state of mistrust. You may view only a select few people as trustworthy and you hold these allies under constant scrutiny, quickly cutting ties with anyone who displays even the tiniest signs of treason.
Marty has been providing guidance and counseling for the last 20 years to a wide and diverse range of people.
Individuals challenged with various addictions including but not limited to – substance abuse, alcohol, and anger.
Marty is a certified chemical dependency counselor and anger management facilitator.
Affectionately known as “Marty”, he has positively influenced and helped reshape the lives of many people in recovery, ranging from ex-cons to his high profile clients in the Delray Beach, Florida.
Marty is an excellent resource with in-depth knowledge of all of the current trends in the substance abuse and mental health treatment fields, as well as individual options for successful recovery outcomes.
Today, residential facilities simply aren’t an option for many clients with busy work schedules and travel conflicts, which is why Marty tailors programs to meet the needs of these clients, whether it be in his office or a location of their choosing.
His approach is casual and non-threatening. Marty is very kind and caring.
As you know, it is difficult to convince clients that anger management or substance abuse treatment is critical. Career commitments, privacy, reputation and other concerns may conflict in making treatment the priority it should be.
It is Marty’s primary goal to help people rebuild lives using tried and true techniques.
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