by Marty Brenner

releaseAnger is a natural response to a dangerous situation. Anger is the fight in the fight-or-flight response. When you perceive something as being wrong or harmful, anger gives you the emotional power to effect real change so that you can return yourself to a safe environment. You release an incredible amount of angry energy when you fight for your life. Once the danger has passed, nature intended you to let go of any anger left over from the battle so that you can return to a peaceful and productive state of mind. Anger should be a sudden and momentary reaction to a dangerous situation and fully released after the danger has dissipated.

You release anger in two ways- either you effect meaningful change so that you find the situation less offensive, or you abandon your passion for that particular subject. When you express your anger appropriately, by stating your thoughts clearly to someone with the authority to address the problem, you resolve the issue and no longer have the need to feel emotional about it. You release anger through effective change. The second way to release anger is to abandon the issue, or simply grow tired of fighting about.

It is important to release your anger by either working to resolve the problem or by forgetting about it. Left incompletely or inappropriately expressed, anger accumulates inside you. Transgressions from the past reside in your conscious or subconscious. Old anger combines with new anger, or even become associated with other negative emotions such as fear and paranoia. Unless you properly release anger, it begins to overwhelm other, more positive emotions like love and compassion.

We are born with excellent communication skills. A baby cries to let his parent know when he is hungry or uncomfortable and generally returns to a happy mood once his needs are fully met. The infant begins to associate assertive communication with a beneficial reaction- he feels uncomfortable, he vocalizes his discomfort, his family resolves the problem and the child releases his anger and returns to playing with his toys.

Anger has a cumulative effect, especially if not completely discharged. Let’s say the child did not get enough to eat, leaving him cranky. His natural reaction is to continue expressing his needs through crying and acting in an angry manner, refusing to take a nap or play with toys. Pretty soon, this cranky baby continues to cry and fuss, no matter what his parents do. The baby cannot release his anger and return to a happy state.
Releasing anger will reduce the frequency and severity of emotional outbursts. Anger empowers you against things you find dangerous or offensive and this emotional strength feels rather good, especially if you are angry because you can’t seem to change a bad situation. You increasingly draw upon unreleased anger as a source of power and find yourself behaving in an angry manner more frequently.

An incomplete release of anger is bad for your health. Suppressing your anger instead of releasing it raises your blood pressure and contributes to depression. Unreleased, suppressed anger may develop into chronic and serious conditions like depression and self-hatred, major illness or a combination of all three. Suppressed anger can eventually materialize in extreme paranoia, phobias, psychosis, delusions and suicidal thoughts or behaviors. Some people try self-medication as a way to release anger, using drugs, alcohol or other types of addictions or obsessive-compulsive behaviors.

Why Marty?

Marty has been providing guidance and counseling for the last 20 years to a wide and diverse range of people.

Individuals challenged with various addictions including but not limited to – substance abuse, alcohol, and anger.

Marty is a certified chemical dependency counselor and anger management facilitator.

Affectionately known as “Marty”, he has positively influenced and helped reshape the lives of many people in recovery, ranging from ex-cons to his high profile clients in the Delray Beach, Florida.

Marty is an excellent resource with in-depth knowledge of all of the current trends in the substance abuse and mental health treatment fields, as well as individual options for successful recovery outcomes.

Today, residential facilities simply aren’t an option for many clients with busy work schedules and travel conflicts, which is why Marty tailors programs to meet the needs of these clients, whether it be in his office or a location of their choosing.

His approach is casual and non-threatening. Marty is very kind and caring.

As you know, it is difficult to convince clients that anger management or substance abuse treatment is critical. Career commitments, privacy, reputation and other concerns may conflict in making treatment the priority it should be.

It is Marty’s primary goal to help people rebuild lives using tried and true techniques.

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