by Marty Brenner
You know sudden anger when you see it happening in other people. You’ve also probably experienced an episode of sudden anger at least once in your life. Emotions rage upwards from your belly and explode from your mouth in a flurry of obscenities. You can feel your blood pressure and pulse soar as your face grows red, your jaw clenches and your hands tighten into fists. Energy flushes directly into your muscles and you feel like you could throw a locomotive a half a mile. Then suddenly, as fast as the rage comes, it leaves. You feel emotionally exhausted and physically drained.
Episodes of sudden anger are usually dramatic and explosive but there is usually a period of calm between outbursts. Additionally, the incident is usually short-lived, lasting only a few minutes. Sudden anger often has identifiable triggers, those certain things that “just set you off,” such as a rude comment or the way someone drives. You might also experience bouts of sudden anger to seemingly benign events. You may unsure why the event bothers you this time when it normally does not irritate you, but the rage you feel inside seems very real and appropriate at the time.
Sudden anger plays an important role in human life- it keeps you safe. Nature gave you sudden anger as a source of explosive emotional and physical strength to be used in extreme situations. Sudden anger gives you the power to strike back at your enemies. For example, a camper might use sudden anger to punch out and overcome an attacking grizzly bear.
Sudden anger can be dangerous and violent, both emotionally and physically. This explosive and dramatic form of communication certainly draws attention to whatever irritated you but it can also have a detrimental effect in your relationships with other people. Observing or being drawn into participation of a bout of sudden anger is sometimes terrifying, and people might be less willing to work with you to resolve the issue if your reputation for having a bad temper frightens them.
Sudden anger indicates trouble controlling both the way you hold your anger in and the way you let it out. Anger is like pouring a carbonated beverage into a closed container – the more liquid you add, the more trouble you’ll have containing it when something traumatic shakes the bottle. Sudden anger squirts out uncontrollably until the pressure inside the bottle is relieved. Expressing anger in a timely and calm way helps vent frustration before it accumulates into a dramatic explosion of sudden anger.
While screaming and punching walls might soothe the rage you feel during the throes of sudden anger, you know your outbursts have a detrimental effect to your personal relationships. You may find it helpful to count to tend during bouts of sudden anger. This age-old remedy gives you a moment to catch your breath, slow your pulse and lower your blood pressure so that you can express your anger in a reasonable, less frightening way.
Marty has been providing guidance and counseling for the last 20 years to a wide and diverse range of people.
Individuals challenged with various addictions including but not limited to – substance abuse, alcohol, and anger.
Marty is a certified chemical dependency counselor and anger management facilitator.
Affectionately known as “Marty”, he has positively influenced and helped reshape the lives of many people in recovery, ranging from ex-cons to his high profile clients in the Delray Beach, Florida.
Marty is an excellent resource with in-depth knowledge of all of the current trends in the substance abuse and mental health treatment fields, as well as individual options for successful recovery outcomes.
Today, residential facilities simply aren’t an option for many clients with busy work schedules and travel conflicts, which is why Marty tailors programs to meet the needs of these clients, whether it be in his office or a location of their choosing.
His approach is casual and non-threatening. Marty is very kind and caring.
As you know, it is difficult to convince clients that anger management or substance abuse treatment is critical. Career commitments, privacy, reputation and other concerns may conflict in making treatment the priority it should be.
It is Marty’s primary goal to help people rebuild lives using tried and true techniques.
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