language-of-depressionYour body wants to live, and your brain is programmed to always act in your own best interest. You must feel a great deal of pain to even consider suicide; attempting to take your own life is a loud and clear warning sign that you are suffering. Anger and suicide may seem on opposite ends of the emotional spectrum but they are more closely related than they may seem.

Life is very painful and difficult, even for the physically fit and well-equipped. Terrible events, like fighting in a war zone, surviving a violent sexual assault, enduring physical abuse or dealing with a chronic or terminal disease increases your risk for anger and suicidal thoughts. Some scientific studies suggest that post-traumatic stress syndrome increases your risk for chronic anger and suicide.

Anger is a natural and normal response to pain. When you face mortal danger, your brain takes a split second to decide whether you are powerful enough to overcome your enemy or if you should run away. This is the famous fight-or-flight response. If you decide you can take on your adversary, your brain switches to anger mode which turns your body into a lean, mean, fighting machine. Anger gives you a squirt of superior emotional and physical strength which allows you to overpower your enemy.

Nature intended anger to be a spontaneous and short-lived emotion. Ideally, you would only become angry a few times in your life. This angry feeling should dissipate as soon as you are no longer in mortal danger. Unfortunately, the angry episode does not always resolve the root of your pain. You are left in a chronic state of anger, frustration and pain. It is physically and emotionally exhausting to maintain this state of negativity, rendering you too weak to fight the battle. You begin to think it would be easier to just die than to fight the un-winnable battle.

You may also feel guilty about your angry outbursts, or be judged guilty in a criminal court for violent acts you committed while enraged. Every episode of anger has three distinct parts: escalation of anger, expression of anger and, finally, de-escalation. Loss of control during expression of anger can lead to extremely regrettable and irreversible acts of violence. During the de-escalation phase, you may be overcome with guilt or remorse for inflicting such pain on others. You may find yourself fluctuating between suicidal and aggressive thoughts as you try to sort out the cause of your pain.

Suicide attempts can result in a great deal of anger. You may be upset the person who saved your life; you are angry that they thwarted your attempt to stop pain once and for all. Your pain is now compounded – the event that originally caused you pain combines with guilt and anxiety of your suicide attempt to become an even larger obstacle than before. You were hoping to find the eternal peace of death and, despite your monumental efforts to stop the pain, you find yourself in an even worse place.

Why Marty?

Marty has been providing guidance and counseling for the last 20 years to a wide and diverse range of people.

Individuals challenged with various addictions including but not limited to – substance abuse, alcohol, and anger.

Marty is a certified chemical dependency counselor and anger management facilitator.

Affectionately known as “Marty”, he has positively influenced and helped reshape the lives of many people in recovery, ranging from ex-cons to his high profile clients in the Delray Beach, Florida.

Marty is an excellent resource with in-depth knowledge of all of the current trends in the substance abuse and mental health treatment fields, as well as individual options for successful recovery outcomes.

Today, residential facilities simply aren’t an option for many clients with busy work schedules and travel conflicts, which is why Marty tailors programs to meet the needs of these clients, whether it be in his office or a location of their choosing.

His approach is casual and non-threatening. Marty is very kind and caring.

As you know, it is difficult to convince clients that anger management or substance abuse treatment is critical. Career commitments, privacy, reputation and other concerns may conflict in making treatment the priority it should be.

It is Marty’s primary goal to help people rebuild lives using tried and true techniques.

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